Before Deciding to Divorce
Thank you for taking the time to visit our Page on the difficulties Marriages are facing today. We call this “Marriage Drifting”. To often couples run to their attorneys and in no time find themselves in Divorce Court. Later realizing that there might have been a few things they could have done together to get their marriage back on track.
Below we have listed seven (7) things we did to get our marriage back on track. We are hopeful that it will do the same for you. Please adjust each pointer to the needs in your marriage and apply them.
Most marriages began drifting before the couples realizes it. They will feel that something is just out of sink, but are not sure what it is. We have always been involved in the marriages of other couples through marriage ministry leadership for 30 years. So, a marriage can drift for anyone. The moment we realized our marriage was drifting we took the steps below to get back on track.
We had often taken weekend get-a-ways, we started doing that again. Ann made adjustment to her school schedule and decided to do her studies duing the weekdays and free up the weekends. So, we kept our weekdays free for each other.
It was an adjustment, but it all worked out. Sunday dinners had always been a special time for our family gathering, so we put that back on the agenda and decided to eat out at a restaurant. We made our marriage a priority, and everything else just fell in place. So, it was not just one thing that worked. Below we have listed 8 things that played a role in getting us back on track when our marriage was drifting. We have listed them below:
1. “Talk” – You must both be willing to talk about what changed to make the relationship drift. Many times, there is more than one reason.
2. “Pray – Your marriage consists of your spouse, you and Jesus Christ. Pray daily to Him about the things you wish to change. Ask Him to bless your marriage.
3. “Time” – Refocus your time. Make each other a priority, and build things around that.
4. Smile – Find joy and laughter in your daily plans together. Keep humor in your daily conversations. Yesterday is gone. Today is now.
5. Speak – Learn to speak His/her love language. You are both different as day and night. Don’t be afraid to say words like, “I Love You”, “I Respect You”.
6. Enjoy – Enjoy your Marriage – Arrange time together – You will be amazed how simple it is to enjoy the little things together.
7. Allow each other personal time and space.
8. Mentor – Find a couple that has been married fewer years than you, and become their Mentor on marriage issues. Amazingly this will grow your marriage.
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